Beneath the Bruises 

by: Jen Tan

True love requires sacrifice.

Everyone has a story to tell about love—some heartwarming and inspiring, others tough and filled with fear. This is how my best friend described her past experience with love, a journey that proved traumatic.

My friend

I've known Mia since 2016, when we met during our kids' audition for the musical play "Matilda" in the Philippines. We bonded instantly, sharing our experiences as moms with kids in the performing arts. Mia, a talented writer, former theatre actress, and singer in the band 'Caramel Park,' quickly became a dear friend.

One day, Mia opened up to me, revealing the harrowing chapters of her past relationship. Before her marriage, she was in an abusive relationship with a charismatic young man she believed to be her soulmate. What seemed like a match made in heaven turned into dark and tough times, marked by an abusive partner that almost cost her life.

Numbers don't lie

According to Worldbank.org's gender data, 30% of women globally have faced sexual and physical violence from an intimate partner—a staggering 736 million women. Shockingly, 26% of them are children aged 15 and above. The pandemic in 2021 saw a rise in abuses against women, reaching 45%, according to UNWomen.org.

Reflecting on Mia's Journey

As I looked at the big numbers, it struck me with a deep sense of surprise and sadness to realize that my friend's story had become a disheartening part of this alarming reality. Mia, in her silent agony, concealed the torment, hiding the story behind the bruises from those closest to her—loved ones, friends, and even the authorities. She fought a solitary battle, camouflaging her wounds beneath layers of makeup foundation, a poignant metaphor for the hidden scars she carried.

Moving on

How does one move on from such a traumatic past? Is there hope? The answer, based on my friend Mia's journey, is a resounding yes. While she hasn't completely healed from the bruises, she is undeniably in a much better place now.

Mia has flourished, crafting a loving family and dedicating herself to being a full-time writer, creating beautiful tales of love, faith, and family. Despite the distance between us in Canada, I can't wait for the day we reunite. It will be a joyous and memorable moment, a chance to embrace and honor her strength and bravery as she triumphs over the shadows of her past.

 

Beauty on a Budget: Budget-friendly skincare products for a healthy glowing skin

 

Two days before my family and I left the Philippines for Canada, I was able to pack my favorite local skincare items in my luggage. 

 

After 5 months here, I realized that there are far superior skin care products that are both reasonable and effective, which can be found at local drugstores such as Shoppers and even Walmart.

 Here are my favorites for skincare products ideal for dry, normal, oily, or acne-prone skin that you can typically get at your local pharmacy or grocery shop. 

● Cetaphil Gentle Skin Cleanser

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This cleanser has been dermatologically tested and is suitable for all skin types. Its delicate formula has also been clinically proven safe for sensitive skin and effective in eliminating skin pollutants while keeping the skin's natural moisture. I have been using this product for the past 3 years, and to be honest, it has made my skin softer and more moisturized all day.

 ● Revolution Skincare 10% Niacinamide and 1% Zinc Blemish and Pore Serum

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I absolutely recommend this product! After barely a month of using this, my skin has improved significantly. It made my skin soft, dewy, and radiant. According to studies, niacinamide helps minimize skin irritation and redness, leaving it bright and healthy. 

        ● Aveeno Positively Radiant Toner 

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I recently discovered this gem while wandering the aisles of the shoppers' drug store. One of the great features of this toner is that it has no aroma when applied to the face and neck. Soy extract, which generates moisture in the skin and prevents the early signs of aging, is one of the components of Aveeno's positively radiant toner.

           ● CeraVe Daily Moisturizing Lotion

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Moisturizing our skin regularly prevents dullness, irritation, and aging. This moisturizer contains three vital ceramides that strengthen and protect the skin from harsh elements. It also contains hyaluronic acid, which aids in the reduction of fine lines and wrinkles in our skin.

    ● Aveeno Protect+Hydrate Moisturizing Sunscreen 

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They say that to keep your skin looking healthy and younger, you must protect it from the sun's damaging rays. This water-resistant sunscreen face and body lotion contain oats, which make the skin healthier, smoother, and softer. 

Taking care of your skin shouldn't be relatively expensive. There are several excellent products that you can explore without breaking the bank. Try to read product reviews before purchasing, and consult your friendly dermatologist first to avoid regrets!